How To Talk So Kids Will ListenWorkshop for Parents of Children with Diabetes
Based on the How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk best-selling book and workshop series, this 6-week workshop has been specifically tailored for the needs of parents with children (ages 6-13) with type 1 diabetes. As you navigate your child’s developmentally appropriate desire for independence alongside his or her chronic, demanding medical condition that requires all of you to work together, it is imperative that the lines of communication stay open. The goal of this workshop is to give you practical, effective methods of communication that will make this transition of the important responsibilities associated with diabetes a less stressful and more rewarding process.
You’ll learn how to:
- Set boundaries without hurting or alienating
- Cope with your child’s negative feelings
- Engage your child’s willing cooperation to care for diabetes
- Empower your child to take ownership of diabetes
- Foster an atmosphere of love and respect
- Resolve conflicts peacefully (no, seriously)
Dates: 6 Saturdays in January-February 2018: 1/20, 1/27, 2/3, 2/10, 2/17, 2/24
Where: 4500 9th Ave NE, Suite 300, Seattle, 98105
Cost: $150 per participant (includes workbook and materials)
Deadline to register is January 10, 2018. Space is limited.
Frequently Asked Questions
Why group? As a person with diabetes, there's this feeling of excitement I get when I see pump tubing or that continuous glucose monitor (CGM) lump on someone's shoulder. I don't even necessarily need to talk to them--there's jus this "me too!" moment where I know that they just "get it". Parenting a child with diabetes an feel frustrating, isolating, and downright scary. Group is a great way to know you're not alone (seriously, you're not the only one who has forgotten the Lantus shot or doubled up on insulin for a meal when your partner thought it was their turn too), that you have support, and that there is a place where people "get it".
Can I come to just a few of the workshops? Unfortunately not. Because we will be building skills and discussing topics from previous sessions, you must attend all 6 sessions.
Why would I do this? My kid is doing great! That's wonderful! This course is chalked full of skills to add to your toolbox, and let's face it--when it comes to diabetes, it never hurts to have too many resources. One of the trickiest things about diabetes is that it is always changing, whether it's day to day blood sugars or taking over the diabetes independence reigns (and maybe dropping them and handing them back, and then taking them over again but while you also hold one). These roads can be bumpy and scary, and it helps to have a strong foundation of good communication so you are ready in case something should happen. You go to the dentist to for check-ups and preventative cleanings so that you can treat issues before they require an emergency root canal!
What will a group look like? Group is capped at 8 people. Whether you are a single parent/caregiver or you do the workshop with your partner, your cohort will serve as a safe community of supportive people who will not ask you if your child's diabetes has been "cured" yet or scrunch up their face and leave them room when you talk about injecting insulin.
How is group structured? Each session is formatted to cover common issues and topics and then we'll learn specific tools to handle them. We'll go through a step-by-step process where we learn how to implement these tools. After that, we will practice our skills by going through several exercises before we leave so that we feel comfortable with them, and then we'll have a chance to do them at home. There will be readings to help troubleshoot and guide us between workshops, and at the beginning of the next session, there will be an opportunity to talk about how things went.
What will the sessions cover?
1) Helping Children Deal with their Feelings: Exploration of what happens to children when their feelings are denied, especially within the context of diabetes. Specific skills that help children to recognize and cope with their negative feelings including disappointment, anger, grief, envy, frustration, resentment, unfairness, etc. Ways to accept children's feelings, limit unacceptable behavior and still maintain goodwill and strong relationships.
2) Encouraging Cooperation: How children react to the usual methods to get them to cooperate when it comes to checking blood sugars and performing diabetes-specific tasks: threats, warnings, orders, name-calling, sarcasm, lecturing, etc. Five ways to invite cooperation that will leave parents and children feeling good about themselves and each other.
3) Alternatives to Punishment: This one is so tricky, especially for parents of kids with diabetes because it is easy to go back and forth between pitying children for having a disease they didn't ask for, and being frustrated beyond belief when they do not do what needs to be done in order to maintain their health. We'll look at how children react to punishment and whether it is necessary to rely upon punishment as a means of discipline. Some alternatives to punishment that enable parents to express their strong disapproval as well as keep kids safe and encourage children to assume responsibility for their behavior.
4) Encouraging Autonomy: Ways to help children become separate, responsible people who can one day function on their own. Specific skills that help children develop their own inner resources and sense of ownership over their own bodies and behavior.
5) Praise: An exploration of the kinds of praise that build a positive and realistic self image and the kinds of things that do not. Learn ways to get a child to become internally motivated to take care of him/her diabetes. A variety of ways to help our children become aware of their strengths so that they can put them into action and live happy, healthy lives.
6) Freeing Children from Playing Roles: A look at how children are sometimes cast into roles (victim, "sick one", superhero) and how we can free them from playing out these roles. Six skills that you can use to help children see themselves in a different and more positive light.
How can I pay? You can pay by check or credit card. Once you have registered I will follow up with you to collect payment information and answer any questions you have.
When: 1st Tuesday of the month
Where: UW Diabetes Care Center (4245 Roosevelt Way NE), 3rd floor conference room
*"T1D Support Group: Becoming You, Not Your Diabetes" listed below is for patients of UW Diabetes Care Center only*
Space is limited. Please email Kyla Tyler at firstname.lastname@example.org to register.
Type 1 Diabetes Young Women's Drop-In Group
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ConnecT1D 2016 Retreat
Who: People with T1D (and anyone else who is taking insulin!) and "T3s" (or people who love them!)
What: The 2016 ConnecT1D Retreat is a one- to two-day retreat for adults, teens and young adults with Type 1 Diabetes (T1D). It's a weekend to share, learn and laugh with others who face the demands—and oddities—of the daily grind that is T1D.
Where & When: Saturday, June 25 at Bell Harbor Conference Center; Sunday, June 26 (adults only) at Clearwater Casino in Suquamish
Why: People with T1D who connect with others with T1D tend to make shifts in their lifestyles that add up to better T1D management, better health and greater satisfaction in life.
Cost: $185 to register for both days (teens and adults w T1D); $60 for Saturday (teens and adults w T1D); $35 for Saturday evening sessions only (parents of teens, teens and adults w T1D); $35 for Sunday only (spouses/partners of people with T1D)
Please visit http://connect1d.org/2016-connect1d-retreat for more information.
University of Washington Diabetes Care Center
T1D Support Group
Who: UW DCC patients with T1D
What: Supporting each other around T1D issues (such as emotional eating, shame, exercise)
When: 7-8pm on the 1st Monday of the month
Where: UW Diabetes Care Center on 2nd floor
Free parking in the garage underneath the building. This group requires registration, so please contact Lee Hill at email@example.com for more information.